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Fathers caring for
Children after Separation or Divorce
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About Us
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Fathers 'r' us was founded in 2010. A non-governmental voluntary website independent of any official interference or financial support. Fathers 'r' us provides a website containing information, advice and support for Fathers and their children after separation or divorce. Initially a organisation looking to change societies views over the legitimacy and ethics of simply being or wanting to be a 'loving father'. Where our views diverge from the prevailing political and statutory services view is in the belief that many of the problems we, as a society, face today are avoidable if all agencies recognized the vital role fathers have in caring for their children. Yet we are left with a "broken society" failed by these political and statutory services whom must be held accountable for their methods and actions after decades of failure. Family Breakdown The increase in the number and proportion of loneparent households occurred in part due to increased divorce. At the same time, other social changes were occurring. Fewer people married, and more chose to cohabit before or instead of marrying. More children were born outside marriage. These changes created several routes into fatherless households. Source: CIVITAS Website Fewer children live with both their mother and their father The proportion of all households comprising a mother and father with dependent children fell from 38% in 1961 to 23% in 2001, while the percentage of lone-parent households tripled over the same period, from 2% to 6%. 1. From the child’s viewpoint: 80% of dependent children live in two-parent families (including 6% who live in step-families). Another 18% live with lone mothers, and 2% with lone fathers. In 1972, 92% of children lived in two-parent families. 2. According to analysis of British Household Panel Survey data, 40% of all mothers will spend some time as a lone parent. 3. More people are living alone. Between 1961 and 2001, the proportion of one-person households doubled from 14% to 30%. This figure is estimated to increase to 35% by 2021.4 Routes into the fatherless family The increase in the number and proportion of loneparent households occurred in part due to increased divorce. At the same time, other social changes were occurring. Fewer people married, and more chose to cohabit before or instead of marrying. More children were born outside marriage. These changes created several routes into fatherless households. The weight of evidence indicates that the traditional family based upon a married father and mother is still the best environment for raising children, and it forms the soundest basis for the wider society. For many mothers, fathers and children, the ‘fatherless family’ has meant poverty, emotional heartache, ill health, lost opportunities, and a lack of stability. The social fabric – once considered flexible enough to incorporate all types of lifestyles – has been stretched and strained. CIVITAS-Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family (PDF Document) The truth of the matter is that being a father seriously disadvantages men who wish to be a part of their child's life after separation or divorce and when they are not in a relationship with the child's mother. Clearly, the law is not on the side of single fathers who are viewed as less important than single mothers when it comes to childrearing and parenting. Bob Geldof and Fathers Rights. The health and welfare of families, children and young people is paramount to a future civilised society. The benefits of good fathers most often in the long term results in less crime and more productive individuals with health pro-social skills. |
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